For some they have been blessed to live in the same community and for others they have been blessed not to. Because let's face it, sometimes families can be hard to navigate.
During the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons many families choose to gather together and celebrate. It's usually a great time but can be stressful. There are factors that come into play getting extended families together.
For those coming in, it could be choosing what to pack for the weather and the long flights or drives. Or, the feeling of burdening someone staying in their home. Doesn't matter that they are family. For the host, it's making sure the house is clean, the groceries are bought and everyone feels welcome and their needs are met.
That's just the beginning. Then there is Uncle Joe who doesn't particularly have the same political views as Aunt Nancy or lovely little Sara ,who is three, and a holy terror. Everyone thinks they have the solution when all her mom and dad need is support and a few extra hands every once in a while.
Throw in a few activities and one family photo
that grandma just has to have and boy oh boy you have the makings of the perfect family gathering. Or not.
The thing is, everybody has their own little bubble they live in. Their own little routine that gives them comfort and when that is disturbed or they are thrown out of their comfort zone, things can get a little sticky. Nerves get shot, people get annoyed, tempers flare, feelings get hurt, lines are drawn and all of the sudden families are divided. And most of the time, it's over a small disagreement.
Whether you are a mother, father, son, daughter, brother, sister, aunt, uncle or in-law, everyone is different. Everyone has a point of view that may not align with yours or things they do that are annoying. So what. Be thankful that you have grouchy old Aunt Bea. There are many people out there who have no family to spend the holidays with.
There are a few important things to remember during this time of year and I am writing this to remind myself.
1. Remember why you love your family because you never know when you might lose them
2. Remember you can't please everyone and that is okay.
3. Respect others views, you may find out yours may be wrong!
4. Remember, everyone is stressed so if someone barks don't take it too personally.
5. Focus on the good stuff. Make happy memories.
This time of year, reflect on your happy memories. Be thankful for what you have and who you have in your life. Focus on showing how much you love and appreciate them.
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